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The Mean Scene


It’s Bullying Awareness week, and we can all admit that we’ve experienced some form of bullying at a point in our lives. It’s the hardest thing to get over, and I’m still not really over some of the things some tormentors did when I was younger. I’m at peace with myself and those people, but I tend to avoid interacting with them as much as possible. My mom has always told me that though some people change and grow out of their “mean” phase, they did it once and you should always be wary of their potential to do it again. These girls who whispered about you in the hall, gave you backhanded compliments; the boys that called you names because you only hung out with girls in middle school? Those people will get their just desserts. It might be in ways that you will never know, or it might- in the true fashion of “What Goes Around, Comes Around”- be at your hands. Take Winona Ryder, for example. This is what she looked like when she was in middle school:

“I was wearing an old Salvation Army shop boy’s suit. [Kids] slammed my head into a locker. I fell to the ground and they started to kick [...] me. I had to have stitches. The school kicked me out, not the bullies. Years later, I went to a coffee shop and I ran into one of the girls who’d kicked me, and she said, ‘Winona, Winona, can I have your autograph?’ And I said, ‘Do you remember me? Remember in seventh grade you beat up that kid?’ And she said, ‘Kind of’. And I said, ‘That was me [...]”

Dads have great advice, too. Mine always tells me to be nice to everyone because everyone’s just trying to do the same stuff and get along with everyone. If someone isn’t being that kind of person in return, just tell someone. There are so many people that will keep you anonymous and get these kids to stop. One day, those kids might come back and want something from you. And I’m the last one to jump on the bandwagon of “an eye for an eye”, but in this case… Remind ‘em what they did and kick ‘em straight to the curb (with dignity and poise, of course).

This Bullying Awareness Week, and every week for that matter! Let’s watch what we say, what other say about us, and what others say about other people. Actions and words do irreparable damage.

- Joeley